#1- Kids or No Kids?
Deciding whether or not to invite children to the wedding can be a tough one. While you may not have children of your own, many of your friends and family might. One positive to a child-free wedding is that you get your friends distraction-free. However a negative is that if they are unable to get a babysitter or have a very young child, they will not be able to attend your wedding. You may also decide that only close friends and family are allowed to bring children. You may be close to the children and want them present, but you don't want everyone's child there. Make sure to make it clear whether or not children are invited to the wedding to avoid any confusion and potentially awkward conversations.
#2 - Plus One?
When you are on a budget or trying to keep your number of guests down, it can be difficult whether or not to include a plus one on the invitation, and who gets the honour of bringing a guest. If everyone gets a plus one, your guest list can get very large and full of people that you don't even know. One suggestion is to offer a plus one to friends you know are in a long-term relationship, or even better, you know their date. Whatever guidelines you choose, make sure to stick to them to ensure you can explain them if asked why someone was not given the option to bring a guest.
#3 - Co-Workers and Boss?
After you are engaged, it is a given that everyone at work will notice the rock on your hand and the smile on your face. Of course everyone at work knows you are tying the knot! Then comes the dreaded decisions - will your co-workers and boss be invited to the wedding? If you work in a small company, this can be an easy decision as it won't take up too many invitations. However, if you work at a larger organization, you may have to make limits - such as only your department or only your direct team. And then there is your boss. If you have a good relationship with your boss and are on more a friend level, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with inviting them. That being said, there is no obligation to invite your boss, especially if you don't quite get along.
#4 - Second Cousin You Haven't Seen In 5 Years?
When it comes to weddings, family just expects to be invited. But what about that cousin that you haven't seen or heard from in a decade? Or that aunt that lives across the country and you actually don't like that much? The truth is, it all comes down to the size of your guest list. Unless you believe they will truly be offended (and that bothers you), you should put these individuals on the tentative list. If there is room, invite them. If there isn't, don't. You want people at your wedding that are important in your life. If you haven't seen them in more than 3 years they probably are not all that important to begin with.
#5 - Your Parents Friends?
As soon as you tell your parents the great news they have already started making a mental note to call all of their friends to informally invite them to the wedding. Their "baby" is getting married and they want all of their friends to see this proud moment. However, you might not know all of these friends that they want to invite. Pick a number of invites that your parents can have, and make this known early. Also make it known that you would prefer friends of theirs that you know.
How do you feel about these difficult decisions? I personally think the family dilemma is the hardest!
Thanks to Grinvilla for the stunning photo!
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